feminists have better sex
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The verdict is out: feminists really have more fun in the streets and in the sheets.
According to a new article written by sociologist Tina Fetner, in which she shares survey data published in Archives of Sexual Behavior, women who identify as feminists enjoy a more satisfying sex life. According to her research, feminists are more likely to consistently receive oral sex from their partners compared to non-feminists. They were also more likely to report that their last sexual encounter included cuddling and kissing, two things that just so happen to elevate bonding and sexual satisfaction. Other research shows that feminist women are also more likely to be sexually liberated and adventurous in the bedroom. This supports previous data showing that partnered feminists report masturbating more, and participating in more anal play, leading researchers to conclude that “the political is not only personal, it is intimate as well.”
Feminists are more likely to consistently receive oral sex from their partners compared to non-feminists. They were also more likely to report that their last sexual encounter included cuddling and kissing, two things that just so happen to elevate bonding and sexual satisfaction.
And while there’s plenty of evidence proving that feminists have better sex, the stereotype that we’re angry and sexually frustrated, persists. Just a few months ago, the world’s least-trusted sex authority, Ted Cruz claimed that women who sleep with men who respect them have mediocre sex. “By the way, if you were a liberal woman, and you had to sleep with those weenies, you’d be pissed too,” Cruz said in a weird rant at Turning Point USA's America Fest. To quote one particularly astute twitter user, “watching this is contraception.”
Cruz’s bizarre assertion that conservative men are better at satisfying women isn’t backed up by data, in fact, all the research seems to indicate that the opposite is true. Research shows that men who identify as feminists are more likely to be having more sex compared to their non-feminist brothers. The sex they’re having also seems to be far more pleasurable. Feminist men aren’t just more likely to go down on their female partners (which we know directly correlates with a higher chance of orgasm), but they’re also more likely to receive oral sex, which I hear a lot of men like! So I guess feminism really does benefits everybody.
Feminist men aren’t just more likely to go down on their female partners (which we know directly correlates with a higher chance of orgasm), but they’re also more likely to receive oral sex, which I hear a lot of men like!
But if Ted Cruz is so adamant on improving women’s sex lives, maybe he can start by helping men develop more knowledge about women’s bodies, something that feminists have been long advocating for. Given that a recent survey found that almost half of young men can’t locate the clitoris, and don’t know that most women can’t orgasm through intercourse, the problem doesn’t seem to be feminism, but rather a lack of it. It’s lead to a persisting, and frankly infuriating, orgasm gap in straight relationships.
And men being more informed about female bodies isn’t just a net benefit for women, it also improves men’s lives. The same study found that there was a direct correlation between a man’s clitoral knowledge and his sense of masculinity. Male subjects who imagined getting their partner to reach orgasm, felt more masculine and accomplished than men who didn’t. So instead of waging a war on our education system and our teachers, perhaps Ted Cruz could empower them to give boys the sex education they need to become the men they want to be in the world.
Given that a recent survey found that almost half of young men can’t locate the clitoris, and don’t know that most women can’t orgasm through intercourse, the problem doesn’t seem to be feminism, but rather a lack of it.
As a longtime advocate for mandatory cunnilingus for straight men, I believe the orgasm gender gap problem can be solved in a generation with one small tweak: men need to go down on women more than women go down on them. Currently, women are twice as likely to perform oral sex as they are to receive it from men, which is a tragic figure given that men don’t need it to achieve orgasm, while most women do. I can’t think of something that sets up men to fail more, than patriarchy teaching them that the one thing that makes a woman orgasm, is “emasculating.”
The patriarchy has unfortunately tricked the majority of men into being subpar lovers (and for women to accept it) but thankfully feminism can rescue us all from this ugly fate. A lot of men are taking matters in their own hands (both figuratively and literally) and spreading the feminist gospel. If you’re a man (or know a man) that doesn’t know where to start to unravel the toxic messages he’s received about sex, She Comes First by Ian Keller, is a great place to start. There’s even a startup called OMGYES that was created to support men who want to become better in the sack. Help and support is out there. I believe in men, and I believe in us!!
Oh and before I go, I just want to remind you that we will be having a sharing circle next Sunday morning April 7th at 9PT/12ET. It will feature a conversation between me and Chris Rivas, the author of Brown Enough on the topic of liberation. The link will go out that morning for paid subscribers, so make sure to subscribe now so you don’t miss out on all the fun!
Of course! Feminist men are all about equality, so you can expect an equitable distribution of effort, pleasure, and the remote control afterwards. It's a partnership approach: everything 50/50, except for the chances of having a good time—that's 100%.
Thank you, Liz, for validating all of the women who love men and sex. And coincidentally I learned how to subscribe here on my phone (I kept getting the message that you can’t manage your subscription on the App and thought I had to go to a computer. But I discovered if I go through Safari to the Substack site it works on my phone. Always learning!). OMGYES