Hot Girls Ruin Vibes Because the Vibes Need Ruining

Your guide to ruining brunch, the beach, and authoritarianism.

They say Memorial Day sets the tone for how you’ll spend the summer. Which feels both a little superstitious and entirely correct. I’ve tried to spend mine eating watermelon next to people who seemed deeply committed to pretending everything is fine. And this year, I just can’t do it. So I thought I’d write this down, not just as a note to you, but as a contract with myself. A soft launch of my resistance summer. A reminder that this might still be the best summer of my life, precisely because I refuse to act like everything is okay.

Because let’s be honest. This year has been hell. Not metaphorical hell, but the real kind. The dumbest people on earth are in charge of the government. The media is chasing book deals instead of truth. The Supreme Court is just sort of just vibing through fascism. The Democratic leadership is giving both lazy and also inexplicably girlboss energy. JD Vance isn’t being bullied enough. A lot is going very wrong.

But one thing about me is that I refuse to let insecure men, or anyone invested in the slow decay of democracy, ruin my summer. I didn’t spend $100 on kitten heels and a claw clip to not bring up the prison-industrial complex during a pool party. I think you can do civic engagement in a crop top, and in fact it’s my preferred method, because it’s the one that scares republicans the most. This summer, I vow not to spiral into despair about the state of the world. I vow to have fun on purpose.

And here’s the thing: ruining the vibe isn’t just fun. It’s a tactic. According to historian Timothy Snyder, one of the most essential principles of resisting authoritarianism is to “stand out.” To not go along with the crowd. To make eye contact and small talk and protest signs and noise. To refuse normalization. When everything is rigged to make you feel powerless, the act of refusing to pretend everything is fine becomes a form of power. And maybe the most subversive thing you can do is look incredible and tell the truth out loud, with your whole chest, in the middle of a rooftop party.

Over the next few months, I vow not to spiral into despair about the state of the world. I vow to have fun intentionally, not as a distraction, but as a form of political organizing. Call it , call it radical leisure, call it survival, call it whatever you want I’m going to have fun being a problem. Because the truth is, people are retreating. A 2023 Gallup poll found that Americans are more pessimistic about the future than they’ve been in decades, with the CDC reporting record rates of depression and anxiety among young people, especially girls and young women. People are going out less, making fewer plans, canceling more, and letting the world collapse quietly in the background. The apocalypse is ambient. But I’m not interested in passive collapse. I want to feel everything. I want to be annoying. I want to have fun and still refuse to stay silent while fascism creeps in wearing khakis. I contain multitudes and one of them is furious.

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This summer, I want to be unbearable. I want to be the insufferable b*tch who ruins your weekend with a single, well-timed fact about the state of the world. I want to be the girl who interrupts your story to say, “Wait, did you guys know the president literally launched a crypto coin while in office to make money off his cult?” And then eats a nacho. I want to ruin someone’s day in a way that might just change their whole life.

And by the way, ruining the vibe is not about being performative, it’s about being alive. It’s about refusing to numb out while everything we care about is being sold off, shut down, or slowly destroyed by the dull cruelty of bureaucrats in bad suits. I want to be the girl who cries at brunch. Who keeps loving this broken place enough to fight for it, again and again, even when it hurts. Especially when it hurts.

So yeah, hot girls ruin vibes because the vibes need ruining. That’s the whole point. We cannot build a better world if we keep pretending this one isn’t on fire. So this summer, ruin the vibe. Gently. Aggressively. Beautifully. Be fearless in telling the truth, even when everyone else is trying to tune out.

It might not make you the most popular person at the party. But it will make you free.