"That video has been sitting wrong with me, and here's why. He's the one filming. He's the one claiming to be in danger. And yet in the police bodycam footage, he is calm and controlled, narrating the whole thing with an unsettling, almost rehearsed precision, while the woman he says was attacking him can barely speak. She is activated, disregulated, falling apart at the seams, begging police to remove him from her home, while he stands there and narrates calmly and clearly. The contrast feels eerie."
THANK YOU. I've only seen a few episodes of the show (Secret Lives of Mormon Housewives) but stopped watching because the behavior of the husbands was too disturbing.
The moment I saw the video in question of Taylor, I knew what was happening. I've been married to someone (working on getting out) for nearly 20 years who would secretly record me after intentionally antagonizing and provoking me so he could create a narrative and show how "crazy" I was while he caught himself on that same recording being completely calm in contrast. I've Iost my shit and threw things and screamed more times than I can count, because he'd willfully created such a toxic, dysfunctional environment where I barely had a hold on reality. I finally worked with a therapist who specializes in narcissistic abuse who helped me learn to trust myself and my version of reality again, and he can no longer make me snap like that. I genuinely feel for her and am enraged (and somewhat triggered) by the general public's response. It's hard for anyone to understand the type of abuse she lived with without experiencing it yourself.
People in these kinds of situations can't "just leave." Some of us are stay at home moms. Some don't realize they're in an abusive situation—it took me ten years to understand what was happening and see it clearly, particularly since we kept seeing inept and uninformed therapists that kept telling me it was partly all my responsibility. As many people in these abusive situations are, I was also threatened any time I spoke of leaving. He weaponized our son, and I also knew that he'd try to take my son away from me and likely succeed because of the smear campaign and narrative he was building. Look what's happening to Taylor—men like this don't do what's best for the children or try to be amicable. I cannot imagine going through all this with national audience.
As a woman who was fortunate enough to survive a 10 yr abusive marriage, thank you for your words. They are spot on. 11 years later and I am just starting to recognize and love the woman who looks back at me in the mirror.
Liz, excellent analysis. I really appreciate the point that this woman faces more and faster consequences than many of the offenders in the Epstein Files, especially our Great Leader. Keep up the good work and the faith!
Thank you for this take! The structural power systems involved in this whole scenario are being overlooked by a disturbingly large number of people on reddit and TikTok and it’s making me feel slightly crazy 😵💫 that video takes place directly after she’s gotten out of her own garage that HE locked her in and then he’s claiming in the video that she isn’t letting him leave and telling the police, very calmly, that he was afraid for his life. It’s giving Housemaid 👀
Sheeeit these men out here trying to act like they’re hard but are acting real soft - they revel in cancelling a woman for the slightest bad behavior but stay glazing their orange king while he’s redistributing their retirement funds to his homies for yacht down payments. Miss me w/all of it.
I’m tempted to say the network and apparently the court overreacted to a single tantrum. But I have not seen the video yet. I can’t understand cancelling a whole show because of a single person.
"That video has been sitting wrong with me, and here's why. He's the one filming. He's the one claiming to be in danger. And yet in the police bodycam footage, he is calm and controlled, narrating the whole thing with an unsettling, almost rehearsed precision, while the woman he says was attacking him can barely speak. She is activated, disregulated, falling apart at the seams, begging police to remove him from her home, while he stands there and narrates calmly and clearly. The contrast feels eerie."
THANK YOU. I've only seen a few episodes of the show (Secret Lives of Mormon Housewives) but stopped watching because the behavior of the husbands was too disturbing.
The moment I saw the video in question of Taylor, I knew what was happening. I've been married to someone (working on getting out) for nearly 20 years who would secretly record me after intentionally antagonizing and provoking me so he could create a narrative and show how "crazy" I was while he caught himself on that same recording being completely calm in contrast. I've Iost my shit and threw things and screamed more times than I can count, because he'd willfully created such a toxic, dysfunctional environment where I barely had a hold on reality. I finally worked with a therapist who specializes in narcissistic abuse who helped me learn to trust myself and my version of reality again, and he can no longer make me snap like that. I genuinely feel for her and am enraged (and somewhat triggered) by the general public's response. It's hard for anyone to understand the type of abuse she lived with without experiencing it yourself.
May I ask why you stayed with the creep so long?
People in these kinds of situations can't "just leave." Some of us are stay at home moms. Some don't realize they're in an abusive situation—it took me ten years to understand what was happening and see it clearly, particularly since we kept seeing inept and uninformed therapists that kept telling me it was partly all my responsibility. As many people in these abusive situations are, I was also threatened any time I spoke of leaving. He weaponized our son, and I also knew that he'd try to take my son away from me and likely succeed because of the smear campaign and narrative he was building. Look what's happening to Taylor—men like this don't do what's best for the children or try to be amicable. I cannot imagine going through all this with national audience.
Couldn’t agree with you more on this!!!
Speaking the truth, loud and clear and so perfectly deliberate, thank you!!!
i love your username!!!
As a woman who was fortunate enough to survive a 10 yr abusive marriage, thank you for your words. They are spot on. 11 years later and I am just starting to recognize and love the woman who looks back at me in the mirror.
Liz, excellent analysis. I really appreciate the point that this woman faces more and faster consequences than many of the offenders in the Epstein Files, especially our Great Leader. Keep up the good work and the faith!
Thank you for this take! The structural power systems involved in this whole scenario are being overlooked by a disturbingly large number of people on reddit and TikTok and it’s making me feel slightly crazy 😵💫 that video takes place directly after she’s gotten out of her own garage that HE locked her in and then he’s claiming in the video that she isn’t letting him leave and telling the police, very calmly, that he was afraid for his life. It’s giving Housemaid 👀
Sheeeit these men out here trying to act like they’re hard but are acting real soft - they revel in cancelling a woman for the slightest bad behavior but stay glazing their orange king while he’s redistributing their retirement funds to his homies for yacht down payments. Miss me w/all of it.
I’m tempted to say the network and apparently the court overreacted to a single tantrum. But I have not seen the video yet. I can’t understand cancelling a whole show because of a single person.
I’m sorry to hear Ms. Plank that a man treated you this poorly. My apologies!