Wow, yes to all of this! It's wild to think that it is so ingrained in me to scan a room for those that will potentially harm me that I have never even considered how disturbing that act is. I'm loving Airplane Mode and the questions you have me asking myself.
There are things about us we ourselves may not know and understand but others close to us do which we may not realise. Same applies to masculinity and those that ain't men/boys
"Only women children and dogs are loved unconditionally, a man is only loved under a condition that he provides something" I don't know if it's fair to say this or is it even correct or does it impose gender based stereotypes. Please tell what you think about this I think you are the right person to answer this Liz
Personally, I don’t buy that at all—think of all the invisible, unpaid, and undervalued labor women are expected to do ALL the time. Truth is, no one is loved unconditionally. Not even dogs. If a a dog constantly attacks its owner, it will very likely be sent to the pound so quickly. With children, it’s a different story, but I don’t believe even they are loved unconditionally. The hugs they give their parents, the “cuteness”, the i-love-you-mommys/daddys—all of that reinforces parents’ love for them, whether they wanna believe it or not. If it was 100 negativity all the time, they’d be much harder to love.
white women have a hard time articulating their arguments without using racism. The sexism white women face by white men is horrible but does not compare to the racism people of color endure.
You write the best kickers. I almost read them first, but I know they will only be greatest in context of the rest of the story. (Don't be getting all full of yourself, though... leave some room for carbs. 🍩🍕😀)
Last week, I fell asleep in front of the tv and not sure what was on--probably a documentary-- but I heard that almost throwaway phrase, "freedom isn't free" and for some reason, it rattled around my brain all night in a fitful sleep. I'd never really thought on that cliché, but that next day I realized that freedom can be taken from someone just by making it necessary that they need to fight their entire lives for something they should already have! I think about activists who should really be poets and philosophers, advancing humanity to soaring heights, instead spend their lives forced to justify their very existence because of the color of their skin or whatever genitals they have.
Thanks for capping that mess of thoughts I was having all week with this letter. Now, I'm off to re-read Morrison.
Wow, yes to all of this! It's wild to think that it is so ingrained in me to scan a room for those that will potentially harm me that I have never even considered how disturbing that act is. I'm loving Airplane Mode and the questions you have me asking myself.
it's completely subconscious! thanks for all your kind words, i'm grateful you're part of our community!
There are things about us we ourselves may not know and understand but others close to us do which we may not realise. Same applies to masculinity and those that ain't men/boys
Thank you for this, I have a Ted X coming up and these words were just what I needed to hear!
Go John!!
There is this one quote i have heard many times
"Only women children and dogs are loved unconditionally, a man is only loved under a condition that he provides something" I don't know if it's fair to say this or is it even correct or does it impose gender based stereotypes. Please tell what you think about this I think you are the right person to answer this Liz
Personally, I don’t buy that at all—think of all the invisible, unpaid, and undervalued labor women are expected to do ALL the time. Truth is, no one is loved unconditionally. Not even dogs. If a a dog constantly attacks its owner, it will very likely be sent to the pound so quickly. With children, it’s a different story, but I don’t believe even they are loved unconditionally. The hugs they give their parents, the “cuteness”, the i-love-you-mommys/daddys—all of that reinforces parents’ love for them, whether they wanna believe it or not. If it was 100 negativity all the time, they’d be much harder to love.
white women have a hard time articulating their arguments without using racism. The sexism white women face by white men is horrible but does not compare to the racism people of color endure.
This is so thoughtful and accurate!!!
You write the best kickers. I almost read them first, but I know they will only be greatest in context of the rest of the story. (Don't be getting all full of yourself, though... leave some room for carbs. 🍩🍕😀)
Last week, I fell asleep in front of the tv and not sure what was on--probably a documentary-- but I heard that almost throwaway phrase, "freedom isn't free" and for some reason, it rattled around my brain all night in a fitful sleep. I'd never really thought on that cliché, but that next day I realized that freedom can be taken from someone just by making it necessary that they need to fight their entire lives for something they should already have! I think about activists who should really be poets and philosophers, advancing humanity to soaring heights, instead spend their lives forced to justify their very existence because of the color of their skin or whatever genitals they have.
Thanks for capping that mess of thoughts I was having all week with this letter. Now, I'm off to re-read Morrison.