Oof. I habitually over intellectualize those feelings way too often. Needing to do/act rather than just think is just the kind of callout I think I needed. 👍
My car was recently in the shop for a week, and I live in a “driving city”. I normally drive to work, but the past week, I took Ubers and Lyfts. Normally when I take Ubers or Lyfts on my way to the airport or home from a bar, I exchange hi’s with the driver but usually don’t have a full-on convo. This week, I decided to try putting down my phone and engaging fully with these strangers about who they are, their lives, passions etc (when people were open to talking) and it reminded me just how stimulating it is to make these types of connections. I learned one person was a former Marine turned Michelin-star-level chef! So cool. Even just taking the opportunity to “bond” with a stranger for a few minutes took me out of my bubble and made me feel more connected and more human. Thank you for reminding us to avoid being avoidant and for all you do, Liz. ❤️
I recently spent a week in Germany with a group of friends. After we were home, I mentioned to my husband how little tolerance people have for friction. We build lives that are push-button and predictable.
Then when we have to deal with cancelled trains or even limited menus, we can’t manage.
My attitude on the trip was, we have each other, we have resources and we don’t have a strict schedule. We can manage whatever comes along.
Most of the rest of the group did not have that attitude. I chalked it up to the inability to deal with friction, but the uncertainty factor was there too.
Please write a separate post about uncertainty. Big theme permeating in my life right now.
getting comfortable with uncertainty is such a challenge for so many of us, that’s a great idea
thank you for putting these thoughts down. definitely nice to know that it's not just me.
I've been making attempts to be there for people but am disheartened when there's no reciprocity. Alas, my dogs help!
dogs don't ever cancel plans!! also, remember not to take any of it personally, it's not you, it's the world!
Logically, i knooooow it's not me. I just haven't found the right people who are on my same frequency!
Oof. I habitually over intellectualize those feelings way too often. Needing to do/act rather than just think is just the kind of callout I think I needed. 👍
been there done that!!
My car was recently in the shop for a week, and I live in a “driving city”. I normally drive to work, but the past week, I took Ubers and Lyfts. Normally when I take Ubers or Lyfts on my way to the airport or home from a bar, I exchange hi’s with the driver but usually don’t have a full-on convo. This week, I decided to try putting down my phone and engaging fully with these strangers about who they are, their lives, passions etc (when people were open to talking) and it reminded me just how stimulating it is to make these types of connections. I learned one person was a former Marine turned Michelin-star-level chef! So cool. Even just taking the opportunity to “bond” with a stranger for a few minutes took me out of my bubble and made me feel more connected and more human. Thank you for reminding us to avoid being avoidant and for all you do, Liz. ❤️
I recently spent a week in Germany with a group of friends. After we were home, I mentioned to my husband how little tolerance people have for friction. We build lives that are push-button and predictable.
Then when we have to deal with cancelled trains or even limited menus, we can’t manage.
My attitude on the trip was, we have each other, we have resources and we don’t have a strict schedule. We can manage whatever comes along.
Most of the rest of the group did not have that attitude. I chalked it up to the inability to deal with friction, but the uncertainty factor was there too.
Great essay!
I can emphasize with you Veronica! This is the exact reason I cannot travel with my family anymore.
Definitely working on embracing uncertainty in my life right now! Would love to read more about this topic. :)
i can relate and i’m sorry the right precautions aren’t being taken ❤️