Love this. Having just gone through a painful breakup (my first big relationship after the end of my long marriage) lots of this rings true. Also in my work as a coach, we tell clients to focus more on what they want, than what they are trying to escape. However so many women have been conditioned to detach from their desires. They believe thinking about what they want is frivolous and find it very uncomfortable, especially those who tend to be anxious people pleasers. So I suggest collecting data, not judgements. Every swipe, every chat, every date gives you data to help you get clearer on what you actually want. Good luck out there!
Love this. Having just gone through a painful breakup (my first big relationship after the end of my long marriage) lots of this rings true. Also in my work as a coach, we tell clients to focus more on what they want, than what they are trying to escape. However so many women have been conditioned to detach from their desires. They believe thinking about what they want is frivolous and find it very uncomfortable, especially those who tend to be anxious people pleasers. So I suggest collecting data, not judgements. Every swipe, every chat, every date gives you data to help you get clearer on what you actually want. Good luck out there!
Really good and really helpful. Thanks for shining a light on this.
Oh my goodness. This is so spot on.