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Mike Moore's avatar

"Take a look at yourself and then make a change"

(Man in the mirror) - Michael Jackson - 1988 / 2025 (37 years and counting)

"I'm asking him to change his ways."

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Mike Moore's avatar

P.S. Good for men, women, politicians, local, state, federal, international level. One of the best things I find to watch is representatives setting people in positions of authority and massive responsibility straight - for and on the record.

Kim Schrier of Washington state - my state:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=i8PyRsS-09Q

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Qasim Rashid, Esq.'s avatar

Excellent piece. Thank you Liz.

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Liz Plank's avatar

can’t wait to discuss on our live!!!!

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Ivan Nevarez's avatar

Excellent. I think about this a lot. I'm a girl dad (young teen, only child), and we certainly feel we've raised her to be independent, empathetic to others, can be anything she want to be, etc.

I wonder how parents of boys are raising their kids..same/similar approach? Or something very different that contributes to this feeling of "male crisis". I do see in our circles some are definitely influenced by the online toxicity, which does not help.

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Liz Plank's avatar

i think this is the first time in history that raising boys might be harder than raising girls a lot of parents are unprepared because only girls have been seen as having a gender

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Al S. Brown's avatar

Thanks for this call-out, Liz! I especially appreciated your call for recognition of feminist authors, particularly bell hooks, when male authors deconstruct patriarchy and its impact on men. Bell has been a huge influence on my outlook on this question, and I cite her often. I encourage anyone following and supporting these types of discussions to go beyond reading people who quote bell. Go pick up the original books, so you can see the growth and context. Study the history of black feminist movements in the 60s and 70s, and realize how radical and isolated those pioneers were!

Thanks for this wake up call. I like the idea of "pick up the shovel" as an invitation to join in the work together. "Fix yourself" is bad advice for anyone. This work needs to be done in community, in my opinion.

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Liz Plank's avatar

thank you i love your perspective everyone should be quoting bell hooks always!!!

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Robert DeBell's avatar

Love this! It's so simple if there is any discourse say "men did x,y,z" and you're a man and you didn't do x,y,z it's not about you just because you're a man! 👏 Check out for the love of men by Liz Plank ✊ it's the path forward stronger together

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Liz Plank's avatar

thanks for being a real one robert!!

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Robert DeBell's avatar

Another 10/10 live! Lizbians take down the patriarchy ✊ 👏

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Liz Plank's avatar

thank you for being there robert!!!

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