Asking men of childbearing+ age if they work outside of the home. I like the idea of tying the male identity to fatherhood and assuming they might rely on a spouse for income. "So are you a stay-at-home parent or do you work for a living?"
I hate it when a stranger does this, but it doesn't stop them... Neither does asking them to quit, so keep it up Liz! 🤣 You are always willing to make them walk in our shoes & I love ya for it!
Just as there are required questions for citizenship, there ought to be required questions about anatomy, sexuality and hygiene required for men, women and adolescents. Puberty doesn’t begin at 21. In highschool I learned about anatomy male and female, the process of pregnancy as well as about sexually transmitted diseases. Because girls were getting pregnant and boys were being treated for std’s.
We too easily allow our children to live in ignorance, then act “responsibly” at the age of 18. Based on what???
“It’s the responsibility of parents not schools!”
Really? Cause my parents weren’t up to it. Got too much of my education from the street, from peers. And that was just so much more valuable. /s
I love that you did this. I always thought about this inappropriate touching and thought that it was around men having a grope wherever the opportunity presents itself.
I wondered why women don't do the same thing. The thing I always come back to is that women don't sexualise men in the same way.
Anyway love your work and everything you do. Long time follower, first time commenter but the inappropriate manwaisting really annoys me!
Believe it or not, there are "socially acceptable" zones of touch. Usually shoulder, waist, or knee (sitting). Not intended to be, in any way, forward, or inappropriate, but, if the situation warrants it, like, politely indicating a desire to move past someone and touch might be a way to signal that, what's the most potentially innocuous way to do it?
My wife is a YouTube video junkie. So, I'm consistently bombarded with somebody done somebody wrong videos. One form of which is men trying to avoid being in potentially compromising situations with women. Of the, were you looking at me, are you some kind of pervert situations. Sometimes, equally, just minding their own business - in a gym or other public space where people cross paths.
Women aren't the only ones trying to avoid undesirable contact. It, can be, an equal opportunity problem.
Men are seldom the recipients of undesirable contact to be sure. But, it's not exclusive either. Women, sometimes, cross the boundaries of acceptable.
I don't think it's 50/50, but, also equal opportunity.
As I mentioned in an earlier post, on sexuality, we sexualize so much in America (advertising?). We really need to have an open and honest conversation about it.
Early on. Men about women. Women about men.
Example. My wife and I had a conversation about dates. Youtube videos. Women traditionally expect men to pay. Valentine's day is more about women than men, by perception. It's somewhat built in to the process.
I suggested, as a former girlfriend did - going "Dutch", where each pays for his or her own meal. I suggested that, "getting to know someone" doesn't necessarily have to mean a date. Or that a date has to be a monetary reflection of how one feels about someone or that it be a "nice" albeit expensive place as a gesture of how one feels. There are unfair expectations in the process. Getting to know someone can be a mutually agreed upon, inexpensive (or free) safe space. But, judging by the reactions of some on Youtube, you'd get the impression that's not the case. And it's lopsided. Suppose a woman took a man out to eat? Maybe it's a matter of budget, rather than a matter of disrespect. Maybe he's a tightwad. Maybe - experience that an expensive date may be expected, but, what if the end result is counter productive. Enough of that and a good number of men would understandably be gun shy about "nice", expensive dates.
My wife and I have been married for going on 40 years now. And, after the fact we do what we can afford. No argument. No hurt feelings. In today's economy? If the expectations were the other way, what stipulations would a woman put on the process? Maybe some of the same, for the same reason(s)?
(PS. If you're ever cutting and pasting a youTube link, the only thing that matters is the link up to the &pp. Everything after that is info gathering for purposes. All you want to share is the link? Delete all that other stuff.
The link, before I cleaned it up, as shown above, for comparison (They both work, but one has less tracking.):
This guy mentions that guys brains are focused. Women's brains are feelings all the time.
A comedian: Woman to man: How are you feeling?
The guy: "I'm not hungry. I'm not tired. I'm not broke. I'm ok."
Guys together: Fishing, Hunting, Cars
Women together: Did you see the sale at Nordstrom? Girl, there were some shoes there to die for? Oohhhh! Dish!
Guys: Problem solvers (Women too. But, this is about their brains.)
(Men will do the same as women, but about the fish they caught, the fishing pole they used, or their favorite lure, or the gun the used for hunting, or their gun collection, or the car they bought (or want to buy). The same, but, different.)
Woman: My day at work. My mother was a day care worker. She could describe, in detail, the problems each child had.
My dad, was a janitor. He came home tired. No mention of the work he did, (which would be his goto if you asked) or the people he worked for.
My wife, as mentioned above, watches YouTube videos about somebody done somebody wrong. The solutions (which I offered) are irrelevant. She's in it for the emotional fix. And BOY does she get it. He did What!? It's a free soap opera. No actors, just story telling. Lots and LOTS of feelings. She stared - angrily, anxiously, curiously, etc. Me? I just offered maybe 5 or 6 solutions. NONE of which mattered to my wife. She's in it for the feelings, the "somebody done somebody wrong".
Conclusion: I'm a guy. I went straight to the solutions. I'm useless in the conversation.
I should've just pulled up some popcorn, sat down and shut up. Which she often recommends that I do, because I'm getting in the way of her feelings overload. I suck at being a good woman, but am great at being a good man.
Okay ladies PLEASE don’t hate me and please read my whole comment before you start yelling back. I never experienced that as a YOUNGER woman in my 20’s I became very overweight. Like prime time for being hit on. And never in my 30’s except from the dude I married. I always felt like it was chivalrous. But when I hit 42 and I was hot with a fit body it was nice to have the attention. And I know that’s so wrong to allow them to feed my insecurity as it made me feel more feminine. But I wasn’t even acknowledged when I weighed 85+ pounds more. 🫠
Tell them they’d be cute if they’d smile more.
lolllll
what prank should i do next?
Asking men of childbearing+ age if they work outside of the home. I like the idea of tying the male identity to fatherhood and assuming they might rely on a spouse for income. "So are you a stay-at-home parent or do you work for a living?"
OMFG the number of times I have had WOMEN say that to me “oh so you don’t work?” And I was like well yeah I do EVERYTHING without a paycheck. 🙄
Handing them plan B lol
next time!!
The classic, not moving out of a male's way while walking the opposite direction...i get shoulder checked almost everytime!!
Not so fun when the hand is on the other back eh? 😀
they weren’t into it!!
You are F-ing awesome! Flipping scripts all damn day!
I hate it when a stranger does this, but it doesn't stop them... Neither does asking them to quit, so keep it up Liz! 🤣 You are always willing to make them walk in our shoes & I love ya for it!
❤️❤️❤️❤️
Great video!!!
☠️🤣
Amazing!!! Imagine how gross that must feel?! 🔥
Just as there are required questions for citizenship, there ought to be required questions about anatomy, sexuality and hygiene required for men, women and adolescents. Puberty doesn’t begin at 21. In highschool I learned about anatomy male and female, the process of pregnancy as well as about sexually transmitted diseases. Because girls were getting pregnant and boys were being treated for std’s.
We too easily allow our children to live in ignorance, then act “responsibly” at the age of 18. Based on what???
“It’s the responsibility of parents not schools!”
Really? Cause my parents weren’t up to it. Got too much of my education from the street, from peers. And that was just so much more valuable. /s
I love that you did this. I always thought about this inappropriate touching and thought that it was around men having a grope wherever the opportunity presents itself.
I wondered why women don't do the same thing. The thing I always come back to is that women don't sexualise men in the same way.
Anyway love your work and everything you do. Long time follower, first time commenter but the inappropriate manwaisting really annoys me!
Believe it or not, there are "socially acceptable" zones of touch. Usually shoulder, waist, or knee (sitting). Not intended to be, in any way, forward, or inappropriate, but, if the situation warrants it, like, politely indicating a desire to move past someone and touch might be a way to signal that, what's the most potentially innocuous way to do it?
My wife is a YouTube video junkie. So, I'm consistently bombarded with somebody done somebody wrong videos. One form of which is men trying to avoid being in potentially compromising situations with women. Of the, were you looking at me, are you some kind of pervert situations. Sometimes, equally, just minding their own business - in a gym or other public space where people cross paths.
Women aren't the only ones trying to avoid undesirable contact. It, can be, an equal opportunity problem.
Men are seldom the recipients of undesirable contact to be sure. But, it's not exclusive either. Women, sometimes, cross the boundaries of acceptable.
I don't think it's 50/50, but, also equal opportunity.
As I mentioned in an earlier post, on sexuality, we sexualize so much in America (advertising?). We really need to have an open and honest conversation about it.
Early on. Men about women. Women about men.
Example. My wife and I had a conversation about dates. Youtube videos. Women traditionally expect men to pay. Valentine's day is more about women than men, by perception. It's somewhat built in to the process.
I suggested, as a former girlfriend did - going "Dutch", where each pays for his or her own meal. I suggested that, "getting to know someone" doesn't necessarily have to mean a date. Or that a date has to be a monetary reflection of how one feels about someone or that it be a "nice" albeit expensive place as a gesture of how one feels. There are unfair expectations in the process. Getting to know someone can be a mutually agreed upon, inexpensive (or free) safe space. But, judging by the reactions of some on Youtube, you'd get the impression that's not the case. And it's lopsided. Suppose a woman took a man out to eat? Maybe it's a matter of budget, rather than a matter of disrespect. Maybe he's a tightwad. Maybe - experience that an expensive date may be expected, but, what if the end result is counter productive. Enough of that and a good number of men would understandably be gun shy about "nice", expensive dates.
My wife and I have been married for going on 40 years now. And, after the fact we do what we can afford. No argument. No hurt feelings. In today's economy? If the expectations were the other way, what stipulations would a woman put on the process? Maybe some of the same, for the same reason(s)?
Food for thought?
There's an addendum to this (with a point):
On YouTube there's a guy (with a professional background) who explains at length the difference between men and women's brains:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SZ6mVumHY9I
(PS. If you're ever cutting and pasting a youTube link, the only thing that matters is the link up to the &pp. Everything after that is info gathering for purposes. All you want to share is the link? Delete all that other stuff.
The link, before I cleaned it up, as shown above, for comparison (They both work, but one has less tracking.):
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SZ6mVumHY9I&pp=ygUkdGhlIGRpZmZlcmVuY2UgYmV0d2VlbiBtZW4gYW5kIHdvbWVu
See the difference?)
Back to the story:
This guy mentions that guys brains are focused. Women's brains are feelings all the time.
A comedian: Woman to man: How are you feeling?
The guy: "I'm not hungry. I'm not tired. I'm not broke. I'm ok."
Guys together: Fishing, Hunting, Cars
Women together: Did you see the sale at Nordstrom? Girl, there were some shoes there to die for? Oohhhh! Dish!
Guys: Problem solvers (Women too. But, this is about their brains.)
(Men will do the same as women, but about the fish they caught, the fishing pole they used, or their favorite lure, or the gun the used for hunting, or their gun collection, or the car they bought (or want to buy). The same, but, different.)
Woman: My day at work. My mother was a day care worker. She could describe, in detail, the problems each child had.
My dad, was a janitor. He came home tired. No mention of the work he did, (which would be his goto if you asked) or the people he worked for.
My wife, as mentioned above, watches YouTube videos about somebody done somebody wrong. The solutions (which I offered) are irrelevant. She's in it for the emotional fix. And BOY does she get it. He did What!? It's a free soap opera. No actors, just story telling. Lots and LOTS of feelings. She stared - angrily, anxiously, curiously, etc. Me? I just offered maybe 5 or 6 solutions. NONE of which mattered to my wife. She's in it for the feelings, the "somebody done somebody wrong".
Conclusion: I'm a guy. I went straight to the solutions. I'm useless in the conversation.
I should've just pulled up some popcorn, sat down and shut up. Which she often recommends that I do, because I'm getting in the way of her feelings overload. I suck at being a good woman, but am great at being a good man.
And yet, we've been married going on 40 years.
Sound familiar? The video(s) linked explain why.
Have a good laugh at least.
Okay ladies PLEASE don’t hate me and please read my whole comment before you start yelling back. I never experienced that as a YOUNGER woman in my 20’s I became very overweight. Like prime time for being hit on. And never in my 30’s except from the dude I married. I always felt like it was chivalrous. But when I hit 42 and I was hot with a fit body it was nice to have the attention. And I know that’s so wrong to allow them to feed my insecurity as it made me feel more feminine. But I wasn’t even acknowledged when I weighed 85+ pounds more. 🫠