I wonder if these guys just never interact with or see women in their day to day lives? I’ve walked into walls, tables, doors and other people because I was caught off guard by a beautiful woman. They are literally everywhere. I can’t imagine thinking an airbrushed picture is better than seeing someone in real life. Then getting to actually talk to someone and finding out who they are as a person. That’s heaven. These dorks are missing out.
The manosphere gave a lot of them brain worms. The online world where women are compliant, hot and barely legal is much easier than living in the real one. When they meet actual women they have no idea what to do, and what’s worse is that even if they find a woman who likes them, if she’s not “high value” enough they feel like they’re owed that.
This is scary without being surprising. Men who see women as objects, as trophies, judge them accordingly. If they are flawed (as we all are), better to reject them outright, lest a woman get a chance to reject you first . Its fear turned inside out. Men (some men, at least) have a real need to shrink women to a size where they can't hurt them. The internet allows them to talk to other men who share how they feel and reinforce it. It's a terribly alarming trend and it's not good for women, obviously. It's also not good for men. It's sending them even further into the dark corners of their own isolation.
It’s like those so-called “Star Wars fans” who claim to love the franchise yet reject any iteration beyond the ’70s. These men, who claim to love women, scorn any real, unfiltered female form, insisting some airbrushed, nostalgic ideal defines beauty. The true beauty in this world includes the “perfect” and the “imperfect”—both are the messy complexity of real human beings who are not simply two-dimensional pinups or freeze-framed fantasies. Stuck in that closed-minded attitude, they forfeit life’s possibilities and the deep connections that arise from embracing reality.
I just don't get it. Sydney looks fantastic considering the nature of paparazzi photos. This saga also shows that the men who are upset, aren't actually interested in her body of work. She was bulking up for her portrayal of boxer Christy Martin in a bio-pic. Which has also drawn the same reaction to in released photos.
It's always the men who actually need to lose some pounds that are the ones quick to judge others. Especially when it's criticism of women's bodies.
“Now and in the future patriarchal attitudes will benefit no one, least of all the men.” Thus ends Eva Figes classic 1970 book “Patriarchal Attitudes”. Reading this piece on Sydney Sweeney makes me sad but hopeful the aforementioned attitudes are going out of fashion…
Incel. Culture. It is permeating every facet of the 13-30 yr old men. They need to do the inner work so they can see themselves as human beings again. This manosphere has encouraged them to completely check out of reality & construct the ultimate fantasy that encourages ego driven self betrayal at every turn. It isolates & keeps them in this state where all they think bout is smex but never with a real person. Everyone knows the fantasy will never meet the reality, so that is why they will perpetually be stuck there til they remember they are human too & eat some HUMBLE PIE!
I think one of the main problems is how social media promotes the ideas that relationships are nothing but transactional and constant negotiations about value based on perceived hotness. And it's not just men who this affects.
If you really believe that, then the first step of any negotiation is to devalue the "product" and make yourself look better than it. It's a shitty loop of that unfortunately means that all of these people will never actually fall in love, which is the best and scariest feeling in the world. How do we fix it?
I wonder if these guys just never interact with or see women in their day to day lives? I’ve walked into walls, tables, doors and other people because I was caught off guard by a beautiful woman. They are literally everywhere. I can’t imagine thinking an airbrushed picture is better than seeing someone in real life. Then getting to actually talk to someone and finding out who they are as a person. That’s heaven. These dorks are missing out.
facts!!
The manosphere gave a lot of them brain worms. The online world where women are compliant, hot and barely legal is much easier than living in the real one. When they meet actual women they have no idea what to do, and what’s worse is that even if they find a woman who likes them, if she’s not “high value” enough they feel like they’re owed that.
The manosphere gives me the ick.
This is scary without being surprising. Men who see women as objects, as trophies, judge them accordingly. If they are flawed (as we all are), better to reject them outright, lest a woman get a chance to reject you first . Its fear turned inside out. Men (some men, at least) have a real need to shrink women to a size where they can't hurt them. The internet allows them to talk to other men who share how they feel and reinforce it. It's a terribly alarming trend and it's not good for women, obviously. It's also not good for men. It's sending them even further into the dark corners of their own isolation.
The men intent on attacking Sydney for being human lack humanity and empathy.
so true
It’s like those so-called “Star Wars fans” who claim to love the franchise yet reject any iteration beyond the ’70s. These men, who claim to love women, scorn any real, unfiltered female form, insisting some airbrushed, nostalgic ideal defines beauty. The true beauty in this world includes the “perfect” and the “imperfect”—both are the messy complexity of real human beings who are not simply two-dimensional pinups or freeze-framed fantasies. Stuck in that closed-minded attitude, they forfeit life’s possibilities and the deep connections that arise from embracing reality.
Put simply: sucks to be them.
this is such an epic metaphor!!!
I rely on Star Wars and golf metaphors when I speak. I can reduce one, but not both. Some things are too important.
I promise to read the entire article once I stop cackling at the headline and lead.
it’s fact-checked too!
I just don't get it. Sydney looks fantastic considering the nature of paparazzi photos. This saga also shows that the men who are upset, aren't actually interested in her body of work. She was bulking up for her portrayal of boxer Christy Martin in a bio-pic. Which has also drawn the same reaction to in released photos.
It's always the men who actually need to lose some pounds that are the ones quick to judge others. Especially when it's criticism of women's bodies.
facts, and the guys get admiration and respect when they bulk up for roles!
“Now and in the future patriarchal attitudes will benefit no one, least of all the men.” Thus ends Eva Figes classic 1970 book “Patriarchal Attitudes”. Reading this piece on Sydney Sweeney makes me sad but hopeful the aforementioned attitudes are going out of fashion…
i love that quote!!
Plus the paparazzi suck. But we all knew that already.
Truly the scum of the earth.
what’s your take on these guys?
They’re assholes? 🤷♀️😩
Wow, insanity.
Incel. Culture. It is permeating every facet of the 13-30 yr old men. They need to do the inner work so they can see themselves as human beings again. This manosphere has encouraged them to completely check out of reality & construct the ultimate fantasy that encourages ego driven self betrayal at every turn. It isolates & keeps them in this state where all they think bout is smex but never with a real person. Everyone knows the fantasy will never meet the reality, so that is why they will perpetually be stuck there til they remember they are human too & eat some HUMBLE PIE!
All very good points.
I think one of the main problems is how social media promotes the ideas that relationships are nothing but transactional and constant negotiations about value based on perceived hotness. And it's not just men who this affects.
If you really believe that, then the first step of any negotiation is to devalue the "product" and make yourself look better than it. It's a shitty loop of that unfortunately means that all of these people will never actually fall in love, which is the best and scariest feeling in the world. How do we fix it?