“Bring your friends, invite your family, the more the merrier!” ... but ... ummmm, how do I phrase this... they are the problem 😀 I jest, but not really. One of the pillars of capitalism is the pressure from those around you who should be supporting you, but there’s up supporting the capitalist forces that are pressuring you. They might not know they are, and it’s subtle, but there is pressure. Maybe because they feel stress they can’t control, worried about what the other moms/dads will think, stressed about paying for the soccer league fees that keep going up but don’t want cut their kids off from friends, cut themselves out of the club club, and on and on... anyway, this could be a whole discussion event...
Hi Liz! I just emailed you / responded to today's Substack about volunteering support for the sharing circle in exchange for a subscription. I am a Community Manager and would love to help! :]
I quite my corporate job 7 months ago… I think now I am finally clean. I was a store manager for a huge corporation I was the most stressed and uncreative, it felt like I couldn’t breathe. Thanks for writing this, I feel the same way. 🩷
i've recently realised stress is a choice. Do you buy that? Some people have a hard time with the idea. Yes, bad things happen: The economy sours, our business struggles, the stock market tumbles, jobs are lost, people around us don't follow through, deadlines are missed, projects fail, good people leave. Life is full of these. But still, stress is a choice because whatever the 'trigger event,' we always choose our own response. We choose to react angrily. We choose to stuff our emotions and keep quiet. We choose to worry. Stress is a choice.
I've recently realised stress is a choice. Do you buy that? Some people have a hard time with the idea. Yes, bad things happen: The economy sours, our business struggles, the stock market tumbles, jobs are lost, people around us don't follow through, deadlines are missed, projects fail, good people leave. Life is full of these. But still, stress is a choice because whatever the 'trigger event,' we always choose our own response. We choose to react angrily. We choose to stuff our emotions and keep quiet. We choose to worry. Stress is a choice.
Blaming all your problems on a large external force that you have no control over doesn't make you more mentally healthy, it makes you less mentally healthy. That's my lived experience at least.
You are 100% right . Focus on what you control/have influence over. It also makes you less mentally healthy to pretend that a large negative external force does not exist and affect everything around you. Some people are good at compartmentalization and it affects them less, but it’s unfair to pretend that everyone can just pull themselves up by the bootstraps. If I were talking to an individual I would focus on what that individual can do to help themselves first before worrying about the system. But in speaking to a group it’s important to talk about how we all together can act to affect the system.
I have personally found that when I do too much systems thinking I dehumanize myself and my own problems. I worry a lot of people overdo it in that way and end up dehumanizing themselves in the process. And no one challenges them on it because everyone has seemed to agree that systems are everything. But they’re not. Individuals matter too.
This reminded me of an old anti drug commercial... "I work more hours to do more cocaine, I do more cocaine to work more hours".
I feel what you are saying 💯 it is a problem we didn't choose & shouldn't have to solve alone! Thank you for writing about this!
ouffff that’s exactly right except the drug is work!
Indeed it is
“Bring your friends, invite your family, the more the merrier!” ... but ... ummmm, how do I phrase this... they are the problem 😀 I jest, but not really. One of the pillars of capitalism is the pressure from those around you who should be supporting you, but there’s up supporting the capitalist forces that are pressuring you. They might not know they are, and it’s subtle, but there is pressure. Maybe because they feel stress they can’t control, worried about what the other moms/dads will think, stressed about paying for the soccer league fees that keep going up but don’t want cut their kids off from friends, cut themselves out of the club club, and on and on... anyway, this could be a whole discussion event...
i relate! that's why i wanted to create something that's outside of our friends and family that's just more of an actual community!
😉 for the same reason I dropped this comment, I can’t join in the Zoom today... 😔 Hope it is good for everyone, though!
As a current subscriber to Airplance Mode will i automatically be sent the link to the event?
if you’re a paid subscriber yes! ❤️
Yes! I'm a paid subscriber!
Hi Liz! I just emailed you / responded to today's Substack about volunteering support for the sharing circle in exchange for a subscription. I am a Community Manager and would love to help! :]
thank you so much for being of service!!!! i’ll reach out!!
I quite my corporate job 7 months ago… I think now I am finally clean. I was a store manager for a huge corporation I was the most stressed and uncreative, it felt like I couldn’t breathe. Thanks for writing this, I feel the same way. 🩷
"Our first sharing circle will take place on Sunday at 9PT/12PT"
Wait, so what time is it? Is it twice?
i've recently realised stress is a choice. Do you buy that? Some people have a hard time with the idea. Yes, bad things happen: The economy sours, our business struggles, the stock market tumbles, jobs are lost, people around us don't follow through, deadlines are missed, projects fail, good people leave. Life is full of these. But still, stress is a choice because whatever the 'trigger event,' we always choose our own response. We choose to react angrily. We choose to stuff our emotions and keep quiet. We choose to worry. Stress is a choice.
I've recently realised stress is a choice. Do you buy that? Some people have a hard time with the idea. Yes, bad things happen: The economy sours, our business struggles, the stock market tumbles, jobs are lost, people around us don't follow through, deadlines are missed, projects fail, good people leave. Life is full of these. But still, stress is a choice because whatever the 'trigger event,' we always choose our own response. We choose to react angrily. We choose to stuff our emotions and keep quiet. We choose to worry. Stress is a choice.
He’s my fav right now. Just read all of his work
Blaming all your problems on a large external force that you have no control over doesn't make you more mentally healthy, it makes you less mentally healthy. That's my lived experience at least.
You are 100% right . Focus on what you control/have influence over. It also makes you less mentally healthy to pretend that a large negative external force does not exist and affect everything around you. Some people are good at compartmentalization and it affects them less, but it’s unfair to pretend that everyone can just pull themselves up by the bootstraps. If I were talking to an individual I would focus on what that individual can do to help themselves first before worrying about the system. But in speaking to a group it’s important to talk about how we all together can act to affect the system.
I have personally found that when I do too much systems thinking I dehumanize myself and my own problems. I worry a lot of people overdo it in that way and end up dehumanizing themselves in the process. And no one challenges them on it because everyone has seemed to agree that systems are everything. But they’re not. Individuals matter too.