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Liz Plank's avatar

please drop advice about to not let your hormones win

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Charity Burgess's avatar

When I was 36 and childless, I started something of an art project. I got on dating profiles looking for sperm donors who maybe wanted some type of co-parenting relationship. I was open to all sorts of scenarios. The response was TREMENDOUS. I had rich men who wanted to pay me to have their baby and have me take care of most of the raising responsibilities myself. I had a trans woman who wanted her frozen sperm used before it expired. I had a ton of responses from men who were just curious about my approach. It was actually a pretty fun project and after I had all these options available to me, I realized that the drive to have a baby was completely biological and not really in my spirit. I'm a happy childless cat lady now in my mid-40's and grateful I made it past that stage.

A friend got her tubes tied and she never regretted that! It's serious surgery, though. My best advice: find enjoyable partners to relieve that tension with :)

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Liz Plank's avatar

i’m obsessed with this and i’ve thought about doing this too!!!!

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DaVonne Rochelle (she/they)'s avatar

Ok! I'm not crazy. AND why are there so many things that happen in our 30s regarding our uterus (perimenopause being one of them), and NO ONE is talking about it. It's like this "second puberty" for lack of a better phrase is some state secret! Wacky!!

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Liz Plank's avatar

perimenopause comes at you fast and makes everything amplified!!!!

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DaVonne Rochelle (she/they)'s avatar

😩😩

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Kari Bentley-Quinn's avatar

My husband and I called it Last Chance Kitchen. FYI I’m 43 and now this nonsense happens randomly (I’m now at a 10 or LEAVE ME ALONE lol).

No advice except realize you’re basically on drugs 😂

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Liz Plank's avatar

it’s like it knows our windows of fertility is gently closing!!!!

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Kari Bentley-Quinn's avatar

Yep. Your body is telling you to get a move on, and it does not stutter.

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Liz Plank's avatar

lollll

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Liz Plank's avatar

omg

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